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Hijacked Mindsets by Meaningless Positivity Yield Zero Gains

Beliefs, thoughts, and feelings are the filter through which we experience our life. Your thoughts DO NOT create your reality! What you do create is your experience of your reality. Simply stated…your thoughts about your reality create your experience of that reality.


I'm not sure about you, but I am really over in genuine gassed up positive quotes in various fonts and colors that perpetually hijack my news feeds.


All the positive thinking, manifesting, vision boarding, and dreaming is not going to get you what you want. Your thoughts DO NOT create your reality! Let's get real …what you do create is your experience of your reality. Simply stated…your thoughts about your reality create your experience of that reality. This distinction is critical, and far too often glossed over, ignored, or pushed aside in favor of the far more attractive idea of being entirely in control of our reality via our thoughts. All this infers is that if you don't achieve what you desire, then there is something wrong with you. Manifesting tips and tricks, and failing, is just going to reinforce that fear.

Beliefs, thoughts, and feelings are the filter through which we experience our life.

Reality, as defined here, is internal and external, two things intertwined, inseparable from one another. Thus if your beliefs, thoughts, and feelings change, then the sum of your reality will change. Because the sum of your internal reality has changed, the choices you make will change. Then the external reality will also change because you're steering your car in a new direction.


Let's challenge this!


Cancer…pretty bold topic that most people don't care to dive into unless they've been impacted by the disease. A common belief is that


"Cancer is bad."

This is a pretty simple statement I too once whole-heartily believed. And I don't know anyone bold enough who dared to challenge my belief. In fact, as a cancer patient, the most frustrating comments (meant with good intention) were "stay positive" and "keep calm."

Let's begin by disproving our theory that "Cancer is bad." We know we can list many reasons why it's bad, but if we prove at least three reasons why Cancer isn't bad, then we can confirm this statement is not ABSOLUTELY TRUE. Thus if we show it is untrue, we can shift the experience of our reality with Cancer.


For me, it was Cancer that enhanced my relationship with my husband. His support, his advocacy, his empathy, his unwavering dedication to finding the best healthcare team, and the latest trials far exceeded my expectations. Cancer also forced me to slow down. I was always on the go, never listening to my needs, focused on secondary goals. I now had time and space to have a cold hard look at what I needed, and I started respecting myself more. I started respecting life more. I learned how to be more present. It allowed me to be a better parent, co-worker, wife, and friend.


Now, this is not to say I or anyone need to have Cancer to achieve these things. But it was the catalyst to my personal and professional growth. After my second reoccurrence with Cancer, I wasn't hopeful, but I reminded myself daily of the good it brought me. Slowly I was able to see the world and my reality with a new filter. And I continue to remind myself daily of the good it brought me. I now believe and say,


"Cancer is not bad, I know this to be absolutely true, because it strengthened my relationship with my husband, it allowed me to have gratitude, it showed me the value of time, how to be a present parent, and most importantly how to love and listen to myself."

My reality was Cancer, the way I dealt with it was my choice, and that choice determined how I would experience it.


If you are interested in learning some simple tools to help you experience reality and to elicit what you want, book a free consultation today.

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